With Mother’s Day being this weekend, I’ve seen lots of profile pictures of friend’s moms and expressions of thankfulness for their mothers. My mother died when I was six, so I won’t celebrate with my mother. I will, however, get to celebrate with my kids. This might not be your typical Mother’s Day post, but everyday I think about how thankful I am to be a mother and the ways God has blessed and grown me through motherhood.
I’m so thankful I got the opportunity to be a mother. I always knew I wanted to be a mother. There was a time it looked uncertain that I would be.
We went through a period of surgeries, infertility medicines, monthly heartbreak and uncertainty. But now I am the mother of 3 wonderful kids. Well, 2 are adults now, but still. With two of those we took fertility meds and with the third….well, we knew when she came without the help of those, and without planning, but with Down syndrome, she was just meant to be.
I haven’t always felt this way, but, aren’t you glad you don’t get to decide everything? See, I would never have chosen to go through that time of infertility and heartbreak but God has since used it for my good.
Maybe I would be just as thankful to be a mother as I am, but maybe I would take it a little more for granted. I’ll never know.
Maybe I would have accepted Jessie’s Down syndrome as quickly and easily, maybe I wouldn’t. I’ll never know.
With my particular infertility issues, it didn’t seem that likely that I would get pregnant by accident and not have a miscarriage, but I did. In the hospital, shortly after Jessie was born, all those thoughts flooded over me. I knew right away she was meant to be here. In that scary time, when we didn’t know yet what health issues we might face, realizing that helped me quickly accept Down syndrome in a way I might not have as easily otherwise. I’ll just never know.
One Thing I Do Know:
Whether you’re in a season of life filled with exhausting days with littles, trying times with teens, adjusting to your children being grown, or caring for an aging parent of your own, you can know you that God will teach you things in each season and use every difficult thing for your good and his glory. Amen. (So be it.)
Trying times are hard (duh) but there is peace in knowing God will use it, even if we can’t see how just yet.
God Used Motherhood to Teach and Change Me:
I was shy and self-conscious; he used my kids to make me more brave.
Raising kids is not for the faint of heart; I had to learn to trust him more.
He blessed my socks off so many times (using my kids) that I couldn’t help but become overwhelmingly thankful and joyful.
With Jessie, who has Down syndrome, he opened up a whole new world of friends and experiences that I would have missed out on.
Jessie, and her Down syndrome, helped our family gain eternal perspective in so many ways.
Each of my kids, with their personalities and what they have needed from me, have changed me. God used each of them to grow me in different ways. I’m not the person I would have been without them.
Motherhood has been the greatest joy of my life.
Some were more trying than others, but I have enjoyed and learned from every season of mothering. I am now embracing a phase of life and motherhood that is a bit slower paced.
I have known the joy being a girl mom and a boy mom and everything that entails. Girls and boys, first-borns and middle children, with different personalities, they view life differently…. and my life is richer for every part of it. I’ve gotten to witness a young woman become a wife, and a boy become a man. What a ride it has been.
If your children are younger, look forward to enjoying the friendship of your adult children. It is a sweet reward at the end of all that hard work.
God used Motherhood to teach me about himself. Then, I taught my children about him.
Motherhood has helped me to better understand God’s unconditional love for us (me) and appreciate the sacrifice of his son in a completely different way than I ever could have otherwise.
I have had the great joy of teaching my children about the Lord, whom I love. I’m thankful they know and love him. I wouldn’t have the same level of peace about each of my adult kids if that weren’t true.
For every step of motherhood–good and beautiful or trying and hard, I am thankful. I could have missed all of this and maybe knowing that makes me appreciate it all the more.
I am looking forward this Sunday to spending the day with all my kids. Last year, Jordan and Josh invited us and Josh’s parents for a delicious steak meal. Not sure what we’re eating this year, but I’m sure it will be good. And the company, the best. With grown up kids, any time I get to be with them, I treasure. If you have grown up kids, I’m sure you know all about that.
God Uses Everything
If you aren’t yet a mother and you want to be, I know your pain. It won’t be in vain; one way or another, God will use it. Whether you become a mother ( I hope you do!) or God knows another way for you, He is good and will fill you with another purpose.
If you are a mother, I know many of your joys and sorrows. God has or will use them all!
If you have lost or never knew your mother, God will use that too. In his goodness, he never allows our pain to be in vain.
Trust God with your past and your future; he is trustworthy and good.
Till next week, and thanking God this Mother’s Day for the joy of motherhood,